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What if better conversations didn't require perfect words… just more presence?
Today I'm sharing three bandwidth upgrades: small shifts that help you hear the meaning beneath the words, respond with genuine clarity, and create real connection, even on your busiest days.
Let's explore:
CONNECT
Attention is your cognitive bandwidth.
Your finite capacity to process, empathize, and be present.
When you're overcommitted, you divide your attention into pieces that add up to less than the whole.
You hear the words but miss the meaning.
You reply faster than you understand.
You solve the wrong problem.
You leave conversations feeling oddly disconnected.
There's a useful clue from neuroscience.
Foerde & Poldrack scanned people's brains while they learned in two modes:
full focus vs. distracted.
With full focus, the brain used the hippocampus for deeper, flexible learning.
With distraction, it leaned on the striatum for habit and autopilot.
Distraction doesn't just slow you down.
It changes how information sticks.
Now apply that to conversations.
When you're half in WhatsApp and half with a person, you don't just listen less.
You start pattern-matching:
“Oh, this again.”
“They always do this.”
“So the problem is X.”
That's where misunderstanding starts.
The quality of your attention determines the quality of your understanding.
So what can you do?
REFLECT
Before your next important conversation, don't aim for perfect presence.
Aim for enough bandwidth to actually understand.
As a user researcher, it is literally my job to have conversations.
Here are small moves I love that improve your bandwith to understand:
Single-thread the talk. Stay with one topic for a bit longer. Ask "tell me more about that" or "what made that important" before switching threads.
Make explicit attention investments. "I really want to understand this. Can we stay on it for a minute?" signals you’re spending focused attention, not just passing time.
Recap small details. "Last week, you mentioned your pitch; how did that go?" shows you stored and invested past attention, which compounds trust like interest.
A quiet rule underneath all three: protect the channel. If it’s a key conversation, put the phone away. Close the laptop. Make the space so it doesn’t compete for your attention.
These small moves create the conditions for real understanding.
GROW
When you practice spending attention on purpose, three good things start to happen.
Personal clarity gets easier. When you single-thread and protect the channel, your brain stops running ten tabs in the background. You make fewer micro-decisions. You wander less. You feel less mentally scattered.
Relationships get warmer. Full attention is rare. People can feel it immediately. When you stay with one thread, ask one more question, and mirror back what you heard, you reduce misunderstanding and increase trust.
The ripple effect shows up at work. If you lead people, your attention becomes culture. When you protect shared bandwidth with shorter meetings, clearer agendas, and fewer side chats, teams get cleaner thinking.
I said it before and I'll say it again:
The quality of your attention determines the quality of your understanding.
In a world designed to fragment us, choosing where you place your attention is one of the most generous things you can do.
Warmly,
Nadia
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